Teaching Kids the Power of Words: A Lesson That Lasts

As parents, we all know the impact that words can have on our hearts. Words have the power to build others up or leave lasting marks. Recently, I’ve felt strongly about showing my kids just how impactful their words can be. Sometimes, saying “sorry” isn’t enough to completely fix a situation, especially if what we’ve said has left a hurtful impression. Here’s a fun, memorable activity I did with my kids to help them understand this. Even now, they still talk about it and remember its lesson.

The Toothpaste Lesson: Words Can’t Be Taken Back

1. Start a Conversation
Begin by asking your child, “Have you ever said something to someone that you later regretted?” This simple question opens up a conversation, letting them share their own experiences. It helps them feel connected to the lesson and reflects on moments when they may have spoken too quickly or without thinking.

2. The Toothpaste Demonstration (Optional)
If you have toothpaste on hand, grab a tube and some paper. Start with something simple: say a nice thing to your child and squeeze a small amount of toothpaste onto the paper. Explain that kind words make people feel good, just like the clean spot of toothpaste on the paper makes it look fresh and neat.

3. The Messy Part
Now, tell your child you’re going to say something “mean” (keep it light and not too harsh!). Squeeze a larger amount of toothpaste out onto the paper, making a bit of a mess. Then ask, “Can we easily put all the toothpaste back in the tube?” Together, try to scoop it up and put it back in the tube. This is when the lesson really starts to sink in.

4. Words Stick, Just Like Toothpaste
Explain to your child that words, once spoken, are like the toothpaste—they can’t really be put back. We may apologize, but the words can still leave a mark. Just like the toothpaste on the paper is hard to remove, unkind words may stick with someone long after we’ve said them.

5. Think Before You Speak
Show them the messy, marked paper and explain that this is like the lasting impression of hurtful words. Encourage your child to think carefully about what they say and to choose words that build others up instead.

6. The Power of Kind Words
To end on a positive note, draw a big heart on another piece of paper and decorate it with markers, crayons, or stickers. Explain that kind words make others feel valued and loved—just like this beautiful heart. Encourage them to speak words that fill others’ hearts with love and joy.

A Lasting Reminder

This activity is a gentle, visual reminder of the power of words. By reinforcing the importance of kindness and thinking before speaking, we help our children develop a habit of compassion. Praise your child for choosing kind words, and remind them often that their words can make a real difference in the lives of others.

As we teach our kids this lesson, may it also serve as a reminder for us all—our words are powerful, and they can leave a lasting mark. Let's use them wisely.

Blessings,
Abbie